The End of 30 Days… and the Wise Words of a General

I’m looking over the last eight challenges on the 30-Day Challenge and I honestly don’t feel like writing on any of these subjects.  So, I’m going to stop here.  I just don’t feel like doing this any more.  It could be my ADHD or something, but I’m just not wanting to write on any of these last subjects: Writing letters, improvement of self, and various topics that have to do with self-improvement.30 day writing challenge

I write letters all the time and have this journaling thing called a “blog.”  I know you all deserve more.  I don’t want to remember any lessons I’ve learned the hard way.  I tend to do the tuck away and forget, or running away when faced with difficulty.   Oh, I might do number 25.  It looks kind of interesting.

But overall, I really have  no more desire to write about any of these subjects, so…

… I will write on something troubling.

My hair.  It’s very gray.  Its so gray that when its wet I look bald.  When did I get so old?

A small montage of my changing and graying hair.  This is how long I’ve known Grace and our long distance relationship (2 years).  I miss that I can’t speak to her in person.

(Her hair doesn’t change color.  She’s only slightly gray.  Asians maintain the same beauty throughout their lives.  At least, I think so.  It could just be a Grace thing.)

I was speaking with a lady that was born in 1939 and she didn’t sound as old as her birth date would have suggested.  I asked her how she did it.  How did she seem so vibrant?

She lived on the coast of northern California and was simply living every day in sunshine and beauty.

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An old photo of mine from N. California

That’s my take.  She never answered and laughed stating, “I feel old, but my mind is much younger.  In my mind I haven’t aged at all.”  And there, was the true answer.  Its a matter of how you think.

As long as I keep my mind in tact I should be doing okay, despite the gray hair.

I miss California sunsets

And so, my job does have the perks of speaking to people who are bit more together than me, and that should out-weigh all the negative and stupid people.  I actually had a pretty good week.  The pandemic-mind meld seems to be subsiding, but…

All this leads me to something I have been wanting to write on.  I have been so disturbed by this turn of events.  It makes me cry.  Someone wrote finally what I had been thinking, and said it much better than me, General James Mattis.  I have not read words of more consequence and better substance, than from an old military general. He wrote what I’ve been thinking.  He wrote for sanity during these protests.

Me and my closest friends had been so disturbed by our military being used against civilians.  Video after video, after video, of the abuse of power.  Peaceful protesters being abused over and over again.  I even witnessed the illegal abuse of power when military shot into a person’s home, as if they were thugs and drive-by shooters, simply because a person was taking a video from their porch of what was happening. They were trying to silence citizens.

I want to place this here from The Atlantic, the words of a wise old General.  Please read and I hope it sparks the same thoughts within you that it invoked in me after reading.

Below is the copy and pasted words from General James Mattis, as placed in the Atlantic article.


I have watched this week’s unfolding events, angry and appalled. The words “Equal      Justice Under Law” are carved in the pediment of the United States Supreme Court. This is precisely what protesters are rightly demanding. It is a wholesome and unifying demand—one that all of us should be able to get behind. We must not be distracted by a small number of lawbreakers. The protests are defined by tens of thousands of people of conscience who are insisting that we live up to our values—our values as people and our values as a nation.

When I joined the military, some 50 years ago, I swore an oath to support and defend the Constitution. Never did I dream that troops taking that same oath would be ordered under any circumstance to violate the Constitutional rights of their fellow citizens—much less to provide a bizarre photo op for the elected commander-in-chief, with military leadership standing alongside.

We must reject any thinking of our cities as a “battlespace” that our uniformed military is called upon to “dominate.” At home, we should use our military only when requested to do so, on very rare occasions, by state governors. Militarizing our response, as we witnessed in Washington, D.C., sets up a conflict—a false conflict—between the military and civilian society. It erodes the moral ground that ensures a trusted bond between men and women in uniform and the society they are sworn to protect, and of which they themselves are a part. Keeping public order rests with civilian state and local leaders who best understand their communities and are answerable to them.

James Madison wrote in Federalist 41 that “America united with a handful of troops, or without a single soldier, exhibits a more forbidding posture to foreign ambition than America disunited, with a hundred thousand veterans ready for combat.” We do not need to militarize our response to protests. We need to unite around a common purpose. And it starts by guaranteeing that all of us are equal before the law.

Instructions given by the military departments to our troops before the Normandy invasion reminded soldiers that “The Nazi slogan for destroying us…was ‘Divide and Conquer.’ Our American answer is ‘In Union there is Strength.’” We must summon that unity to surmount this crisis—confident that we are better than our politics.

Donald Trump is the first president in my lifetime who does not try to unite the American people—does not even pretend to try. Instead he tries to divide us. We are witnessing the consequences of three years of this deliberate effort. We are witnessing the consequences of three years without mature leadership. We can unite without him, drawing on the strengths inherent in our civil society. This will not be easy, as the past few days have shown, but we owe it to our fellow citizens; to past generations that bled to defend our promise; and to our children.

We can come through this trying time stronger, and with a renewed sense of purpose and respect for one another. The pandemic has shown us that it is not only our troops who are willing to offer the ultimate sacrifice for the safety of the community. Americans in hospitals, grocery stores, post offices, and elsewhere have put their lives on the line in order to serve their fellow citizens and their country. We know that we are better than the abuse of executive authority that we witnessed in Lafayette Square. We must reject and hold accountable those in office who would make a mockery of our Constitution. At the same time, we must remember Lincoln’s “better angels,” and listen to them, as we work to unite.

Only by adopting a new path—which means, in truth, returning to the original path of our founding ideals—will we again be a country admired and respected at home and abroad.



I hope you all have a good week of seeking and searching and finding what you need.  Have a good week. 🙂

Goodnight Grace 🙂 ❤

5 thoughts on “The End of 30 Days… and the Wise Words of a General

  1. It really is a scary and heart wrenching time. There’s so much protesting happening here where I am, not near as much as elsewhere in the world but lots for where I live. I have friends heading out to protest and others doing their own things for Pride since it was cancelled this year. And I worry. I worry about my friends in Georgia who are involved in much more dangerous protests. I guess this is how we are going to finally get something to change, but at what cost? Our leaders are just fueling this.

      1. I want so much for things to change in a positive way but you’re right. I have that same fear. Or that they may change for the worse 😦

      2. That’s a realistic fear, Ang. I was thinking over a pendulum analogy on how extremism keeps going from one side to the other. We can’t seem to settle on a happy medium.

      3. I was thinking about this as well and you are right, it seems to go side to side but there are many who definitely seem to be settled somewhere in the middle. Not enough to slow the swinging too much though. I think it’s worse (and only going to get worse) because of the easy access to information we have compared to earlier. Hopefully people will learn to not believe everything they read and *cross fingers* that might help bring back some common sense 😀

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